Online grooming, a very useful guide that the school can provide to parents

Online care. A very useful vademecum has been published for parents who cannot stand alone in the arduous task of raising them.

The State Police has published a useful handbook involving parents. They must also be supported and guided by the schools.

Online grooming (child care), the phenomenon has not disappeared

Online care. The pandemic and now the Russian-Ukrainian conflict cloud the problem. Especially during the lockdown, the phenomenon has had a worrying increase, also favored by the proliferation of video games involving contacts, interaction chat … This is certified by the postal police, which with contributions from the National Center for Contrast to Online Child Pornography (CNCPO ) in Rome, highlighted an exponential increase in the phenomenon in 2020, which stands at + 110% compared to the same period of the year.

The phenomenon is not always understood due to the English-speaking term childcare. It is well known that the use of the English language is intended not to make people understand the meaning of a device or part of a vehicle. In our case, the use is misplaced and strongly negative as it does not facilitate attention and reflection on a very worrying phenomenon. In summary, the definition of childcare contextualizes the priming, ties it more to chat or social networks (let’s forget about Facebook, which is now abandoned by children and young people). It is highlighted the type of clutch which exploits the weaknesses of the child under 16 years of age. Clearly, the person initiating this type of action is an expert in social engineering, who carefully studies the possible victim until he identifies his weaknesses or the state of mind he is going through. So the whore or groomer is a sophisticated expert in the world of young people. Evolution follows, though some coordinates attached to the human condition remain certain points: the fragility and weaknesses associated with young age, well connected with the state of creatures, declined in loneliness and emptiness, amplified by the pandemic and its side effects on the psyche of youth and so on.

A useful handbook that strengthens the adult

The state police, who have always been in the trenches to combat physical and online bullying, naturally update their actions on an ongoing basis and suggest and advise adults. For this purpose, a vademecum against online grooming has been published. The intention is to keep adults’ attention on new trends. Attention is first and foremost directed at parents who, according to the Constitution (Article 30), are presented as the first educators by their children. Any delegation to other institutions is out of place, not allowed under the Charter.
The premise explains their involvement in vademecum.

Clear the recipients and the purpose “This guide aims to be a useful tool for parents and adults with parental responsibility for boys, girls and children, in a historical and social moment where the relationship to digital technologies shapes many of our life experiences, including parenting. The impact of the Covid-19 pandemic on the increase in the use of technologies was clear: it expanded their use and further lowered the age group of those accessing digital environments, but this happened suddenly and in emergencies, in the absence of the necessary preparation. Alongside the opportunities for digital innovation, there is also exposure to specific risks, a condition that requires a lot of attention and which we have decided to focus on a specific topic here. In fact, the Guide wants to deepen the phenomenon of online grooming (also called “online grooming”), unfortunately in constant proliferation.

In accordance with this line, vademecum always presents two topics: the child and the parent. The brochure’s age of interest starts from 0 to 6 years and then unfolds up to 13 years. Of course, we start with a series of questions addressed to young parents about the possibility of publishing pictures of own puppy, and remember that every trace on the web will last forever. The year of termination is not chosen at random, as the new Italian Privacy Code (Decree 101/18) gives the child a degree of maturity and autonomy.
The advice in case of online grooming, revealed by your child, is of some interest

here they are

1) Stay calm
2) Let him talk and ask him to be reserved with friends
3) Ask questions without judging
4) Do not blame your child even if he / she made a mistake, was careless or impulsive
5) Do not delete photos, contacts, chats on your child’s smartphone / tablet / PC
6) Do not replace yourself in contacts with the unknown person
7) Go to an office at the Postal Police as soon as possible or contact

School homework

The educational institution can do a lot, which confirms its role in supporting families. If this is done, the principle contained in the delegated decrees of educational community. It needs adults positively proactive they resume the educational leadership of the children. The commitment is difficult because, on the other hand, there are a number of topics, agencies that are highly market dependent. They are the market that uses very effective techniques to achieve the goal!

That being said, what are the possible interventions from the school?

First of all, vademecum spread through the institutional website, the social pages pertaining to the department. It is important to accompany this publication with a few lines of commentary or introduction and to support everything with a picture. Scripture conveys the idea that school has the problem at heart, while the image has the function of attracting attention.

The publication is effective if the school is the owner of a project to combat online bullying and the network’s risks, which are expressed through periodic meetings with children. These moments can be managed by the anti-bullying contact person and his working group (Anti-bullying team). Compared to Law 71/17 (Combating Cyberbullying), law enforcement efforts are becoming more collegial in terms of not only the technical-IT aspects but also the psychological, health and educational ones. “The anti-bullying team consisting of the school head, the bully-cyber-bullying rapporteur (s), the digital animator and other professionals present at the school (psychologist, educatorista, social health workers) ” (New Guidelines, January 13, 2021).

However, the diversification and complexity of the phenomena requires that the level up, involves other levels of the social context. Here is therefore the support from “Emergency Team, also through networks of purposes, integrated by specialized persons from the territory, to encourage the involvement of other education and child protection bodies, law enforcement agencies, health services, education structures. “

It is possible to enrich the school project by proposing to the students the course for the license to use the smartphone, following the common thread in the three modules: 1) I know my device; 2) how I use my device and applications; 3) I protect myself. the project was successfully launched in the regions of Piedmont and Umbria. However, nothing prevents individual schools (preferably consortium members) from entering into an education pact with the local authority or the USR to give the license itself a minimum of legal validity.

These and others can be school initiatives. The problem is the parents. Almost always absent on this front, only to become aware of the problem when your child is involved.

The ad hoc meetings for them almost always gather a low degree of support. To circumvent this critique, “windows” can be suggested within moments of greater presence such as interclasses, class meetings …

In conclusion, it is necessary to avoid that our boys are educated from the web, from the mass media or from peers.

It is urgent for parents to educate their children back. The alternatives often stand dramatically before our eyes

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